Archive for May, 2014

Is modesty a topic that no longer needs to be discussed in Christian circles?  Does what we wear or don’t wear affect our witness or ministry in any way?  Are there biblical guidelines that we in the church have ignoring for the sake of blending in with the world around us?  I was blessed to find a link to this blog on a friends page and I wanted to share it with you.  The blog is a bit long, but it is well worth the read and it is certainly a conversation that needs to had in churches around the country.


The Silence Is Broken

The Silence Is Broken
I’ve been quiet for quite some time. To be exact it has been about 4 months since I have posted anything here at In His Hands Hollow. You see, I have had a burden, one I could not fully put into proper words for a very long time. Oh, I could have rushed in and blabbered off a bunch of my own words and thoughts, but I didn’t want to do that. I didn’t want to pop off a bunch of words that might have been coming from my flesh and not from what the Lord might speak to my spirit. So I waited, and prayed about this issue. I did not expect it would be 4 whole months before I was able to address this topic but then again, the Lord does not work on my time table. 🙂
The words, the scriptures, the details, and direction all came slowly. After a time I began to wonder if it was ever going to come together, but the Lord is faithful. His timing is perfect. So I continued to wait. I thought about writing a post about something, anything, a few times however that didn’t seem right either. It did not seem right to do a fluff piece just to fill space. No, I had to wait until everything came together. Sometimes in life we just have to wait and be quiet. Such a time as this. And so I waited.
What I am going to cover will be considered non-consequential, it may seem unimportant, maybe even silly, or petty by some. However I assure you that something this simple does matter and has an impact on just about every area of ones life I can think of off hand.
Titus 2:3-5
The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things; 4 that they may teach the younger women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, 5 to be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands,that the word of God be not blasphemed.
What is this all important, life-altering topic? Modesty.
You see, it began last January while I was in the store going about my own business filling my cart with carefully selected items on my grocery list, ticking each item off my list as it went in. I was at the end of the shampoo isle when I turned to enter the main isle that runs the front of the store when a young woman rushed past me. All of her attention was occupied by a conversation she was having on her cell phone so she probably never even noticed how close we came to colliding, let alone that I was even standing there. That alone did not bother me. Sadly, I’m getting used to so many people behaving like they are the only ones in the store (or on the road, or anywhere else) these days. Courtesy has taken a serious back seat in our society today. No, the thing that caught my attention was this young woman’s outfit. She was obviously following the current fashion trend wearing a pair of leggings, stylish boots, some sort of top, and a fancy jacket. By all appearances she was neat, clean, and well groomed. She was a pretty girl. What she was not was modest. There was nothing even remotely modest about her attire. Why? Because her leggings were tighter than even panty hose would have been. They were as snug to her body as if she had been vacuum packed into them. There was not only nothing left to the imagination but every crook and crevice, every cranny and curve were beyond visible. They were down right emphasized! The jacket and shirt she wore only came to a high waist level. Unfortunately, I had a full view in just a matter of a second or two of her front, then side, then back side as we almost collided, she walked past, then turned a corner. In that second or two I saw more of that poor misguided young lady than I ever cared to see. But what struck me most was this; Did she KNOW how much of her I, and everyone else in the store was seeing of her? And then I began seeing this same thing almost every time I went out. It wasn’t just this one young lady but young girls, and women older than myself!
I remember being young, I was there once myself. 🙂 I remember how it felt wanting to look good as I got ready for my day. The daily ritual I had back then included doing up my hair and face, and carefully choosing what I was going to wear. After dressing for the day I too spent a few extra minutes turning this way and that appraising myself in the mirror to be sure nothing was mismatched or looked bad. When I was satisfied I went on about my day. If anything about me was out of order or inappropriate no one ever told me. But you know what? When I look back at pictures now I can see there was a period when I DID look inappropriate!! There was a time when I wore mini skirts and low cut tops. I thought I was covered just fine, but I was not. No one ever said anything to me and even thinking about it now causes me to blush as I wonder what strangers must have thought about me. Know what else? I think deep down I knew at least in part what was modest and what wasn’t, even if I didn’t think of it in those specific terms. How? Because there were certain places I would not wear certain things, and would instead purposely choose higher necklines and lower hemlines when I went to those places or around those people. At that time in my life my moral compass was a bit askew.
So, what does dress matter? In todays world of ‘anything goes as long as your a good person’ it might be hard even for some Christians to see how even a young woman who is fully clothed from her neck to her ankles can be immodest. As with anything, the first place we need to look is to Gods word on the matter.
What does the bible say about how we are to dress, or carry ourselves? Well, since scripture is given by inspiration of God we need to consider that what scripture says about it is in fact what God says about it. And since God does not change, His word does not change. It is still relevant to today.
First and foremost we need to examine our hearts. When we become saved we ‘become a new creature. ‘
Ephesians 4:17-24

17 This I say therefore, and testify in the Lord, that ye henceforth walk not as other Gentiles walk, in the vanity of their mind, 18 having the understanding darkened, being alienated from the life of God through the ignorance that is in them, because of the blindness of their heart: 19 who being past feeling have given themselves over unto lasciviousness, to work all uncleanness with greediness. 20 But ye have not so learned Christ; 21 if so be that ye have heard him, and have been taught by him, as the truth is in Jesus: 22 that ye put off concerning the former conversation the old man, which is corrupt according to the deceitful lusts; 23 and be renewed in the spirit of your mind; 24 and that ye put on the new man, which after God is created in righteousness and true holiness.

As a new creature in Christ we begin to examine the things in our lives that are not lining up with Gods Holy Word. A new convert may have used foul language before coming to Christ but as a child of God his heart will begin to be convicted of the words that used to slip so easily from his lips. That curse word or lie that comes out will prick the heart, he’ll be uncomfortable with it. If his heart was sincere in his acceptance of Christ those around him, especially those who’ve known them for very long will begin to notice uncharacteristic changes in them. They may not want to do the same things they used to do with their friends, they will stop going some places they used to go, talking the way they used to talk, and yes, even stop dressing the way they used to dress.
Why? Because scripture is very clear that we are not to be conformed to the things of this world.
Romans 12:1-3
12 I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that ye present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable unto God, which is your reasonable service. 2 And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God. 3 For I say, through the grace given unto me, to every man that is among you, not to think of himself more highly than he ought to think; but to think soberly, according as God hath dealt to every man the measure of faith.
You see, when we become saved we become so much more than just someone on their way to heaven! We become a child of the King, an heir. And what is an heir? In this case it is someone who is going to inherit the kingdom of God! We are no longer on that wide path that leads to hell but have instead chosen the straight and narrow path to heaven. With that choice comes certain responsibilities. Others should be able to see that we are different. We become ‘guide posts’ for others along lifes journey. If we follow scripture, that is something that will naturally occur without us even knowing it sometimes, but we do have to make certain choices daily for those changes to happen. By our heeding those daily convictions about how we speak, the things we do, how we dress we are establishing those road signs for others around us.
2 Corinthians 6:17-18
17 Wherefore come out from among them, and be ye separate, saith the Lord, and touch not the unclean thing; and I will receive you, 18 and will be a Father unto you, and ye shall be my sons and daughters, saith the Lord Almighty.
Titus 2:11-15

11 For the grace of God that bringeth salvation hath appeared to all men, 12 teaching us that, denying ungodliness and worldly lusts, we should live soberly, righteously, and godly, in this present world; 13 looking for that blessed hope, and the glorious appearing of the great God and our Saviour Jesus Christ; 14 who gave himself for us, that he might redeem us from all iniquity, and purify unto himself a peculiar people, zealous of good works. 15 These things speak, and exhort, and rebuke with all authority. Let no man despise thee.

We are not to follow the ways of this world. We are called to be ‘a peculiar people’, ‘Set a part’, ‘separate’.
Noah Websters 1828 American Dictionary of the English Language gives the following definitions to these words:
Peculiar- Exclusive property; that which belongs to a person in exclusion of others
If we are to be a peculiar people or ‘that which belongs to a person in exclusion of others’ we need to think about that for a minute. To whom is it we belong? If we are a child of God it is God to whom we belong. If we are His, striving to live by His word daily should become a natural part of our day just as nourishing our bodies is part of our day. We do that through study of His word and putting what we’ve learned into practice.
There are many area’s of life in which we must die to the flesh daily that we can talk about, but today I want to talk about modesty and how we dress.
As I prepared for this I thought about the way young men dress and how little it has changed over the decades and centuries. For quite a number of years the clothes for men has been some form of pants (whether jeans, trousers, or breeches). Until recently mens britches have been fairly plain. Now we are beginning to see them take on some of the same characteristics of their female counter parts in cut and ‘bling’ as society begins to blur the lines from male and female to unisex clothing. Mens shirts have typically been some form of button down shirt or other loose fitting shirt like a t-shirt or sweat shirt for casual wear or outdoor work. Today we see a fashion trend where simple mens button down shirts and T’s are being contoured to fit the body more closely and accentuate the body in styles very much like women’s. They are feminizing mens clothing, blurring the lines between male and female. Again, bringing it to a unisex form of fashion.
On that same note, we also see many womens fashiones being made to look more masculine. Pants with a boyish cut, the same male/female cut to button down shirts, even workout clothes are taking on these same characteristics. It is not uncommon to be out in public and see someone that you cannot tell if they are a guy or a girl until you get up close and can see their face, and sometimes that is not even enough. Even hair styles are crossing those same boundary’s.

Deuteronomy 22:5

5 The woman shall not wear that which pertaineth unto a man, neither shall a man put on a woman’s garment: for all that do so are abomination unto the Lord thy God.

Even society itself worldwide has made a definite distinction between what is male and female. The simplest example of that would be the symbols used around the entire world to differentiate between the men’s restroom and the women’s. The women’s restroom is always ALWAYS marked by a female in a dress. The men’s, by a person NOT wearing a dress.
For the most part young men and older men dress relatively modest in general. There are exceptions when it comes to shorts, tank tops, going shirtless, and skimpy swim trunks.
The area we tend to see the worst levels of immodest dress are in fashions of women and girls. Recently my daughter wanted to buy herself a new dress. Typically we shop second hand stores because it is so hard to find modest dress in most stores, but she wanted to try. I was skeptical but she is an adult and it was her money so we went to town and looked, and looked, and looked. There are some really pretty fabrics out right now but we found nothing that had enough fabric to it to cover the body modestly. If the fabric wasn’t too sheer the garment was either too low cut or too short or both. With the arrival of Summer coming shortly she did not want to have to wear 3 or 4 layers of different clothing items to compensate for the lack of covering. And honestly, she shouldn’t have to do it either. A woman (or girl) should not have to risk heat exhaustion to be modestly covered.

When God created man he was not clothed nor did he even realize he needed to be,(25 And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed. Genesis 2:25) but when man sinned against God he became aware of his own nakedness, was ashamed, and tried to hide. (And the eye’s of both were opened, and they knew that they were naked; and they sewed fig leaves together, and made themselves aprons. Genesis 3:7) God created coverings for Adam and his wife Eve from animal skins to more adequately cover their nakedness . So here we see the very first instance of mankind being aware of what was immodest, as seen in their attempt to cover their nakedness.

Lets take a look for a minute at what scripture says is immodest. Right off the bat we know that nakedness is not approved of by God for his people because He made coverings for Adam and Eve to cover their nakedness once sin came in as noted previously. Over and over again scripture equates nakedness with shame.
So lets take a minute and see the definitions of naked and nakedness as they pertain to the body:
Naked-1.Not covered, bare; having no clothes on; as a naked body or a naked limb
  1. Defenseless
  2. 3. Open to view, not concealed
    Nakedness- 1. Want of covering or clothing; nudity
    2. Open to view
When researching scripture I came across 43 separate verses regarding nakendness,and 87 that used the word naked, all of which equated it with shame. Here are just a few: When Jerusalum sinned against God :

Lamentations 1:8
Jerusalem hath grievously sinned; therefore she is removed: all that honored her despise her, because they have seen her nakedness:

Isaiah 47:1-3

47 Come down, and sit in the dust,
O virgin daughter of Babylon, sit on the ground:there is no throne, O daughter of the Chaldeans:
for thou shalt no more be called tender and delicate.
2 Take the millstones, and grind meal:
uncover thy locks, make bare the leg,
uncover the thigh, pass over the rivers.
3 Thy nakedness shall be uncovered,
yea, thy shame shall be seen:
Here in Isaiah we see that a bare leg and uncovered thigh are considered revealing our nakedness. It then says ‘thy shame be seen’.
Revelation 3: 15-19
15 I know thy works, that thou art neither cold nor hot: I would thou wert cold or hot. 16 So then because thou art lukewarm, and neither cold nor hot, I will spue thee out of my mouth. 17 Because thou sayest, I am rich, and increased with goods, and have need of nothing; and knowest not that thou art wretched, and miserable, and poor, and blind, and naked: 18 I counsel thee to buy of me gold tried in the fire, that thou mayest be rich; and white raiment, that thou mayest be clothed, and that the shame of thy nakedness do not appear; and anoint thine eyes with eyesalve, that thou mayest see. 19 As many as I love, I rebuke and chasten: be zealous therefore, and repent
In this verse we our counciled to be clothed that ‘the shame of thy nakedness do not appear’.
These are just a few verses regarding the bodily covering of nakedness. Many of the verses in the bible speaking of nakedness are referring to other types of exposure not limited to the bodily covering so I will not go into those. Right now our point of discussion is regarding the physical modesty of the body and person only.
Now lets look at some scriptures specific to modesty. First though, lets see what Noah Websters says about the definition of modest and modesty:
Modest: 1.Properly, restrained by a sense of propriety, 2.not bold or forward; as a modest maid; The blushing beauties of a modest maid.
3.Not loose; not lewd; 4. Not excessive or extreme; not extravagant
Modestly: 4. In females:modesty has the like character as in males (humble or timid attitude); but the word is used also as synonymous with chastity, or purity of manners. In this sense modesty results from purity of mind, or from the fear of disgrace. Unaffected modesty is the sweetest charm of female excellence, the richest gem in the diadem of their honor.
1 Timothy 2:9-10
9 In like manner also, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with shamefacedness and sobriety; not with broided hair, or gold, or pearls, or costly array; 10 but (which becometh women professing godliness) with good works.
1 Peter 3:3-4
3 Whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel; 4 but let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price.
Isaiah 3:16-24
16 Moreover the Lord saith,
Because the daughters of Zion are haughty,
and walk with stretched forth necks and wanton eyes,
walking and mincing as they go,
and making a tinkling with their feet:
17 therefore the Lord will smite with a scab
the crown of the head of the daughters of Zion,
and the Lord will discover their secret parts.
18 In that day the Lord will take away
the bravery of their tinkling ornaments about their feet,
and their cauls, and their round tires like the moon,
19 the chains, and the bracelets, and the mufflers,
20 the bonnets, and the ornaments of the legs,
and the headbands, and the tablets, and the earrings,
21 the rings, and nose jewels,
22 the changeable suits of apparel,
and the mantles, and the wimples, and the crisping pins,
23 the glasses, and the fine linen,
and the hoods, and the vails.
24 And it shall come to pass, that instead of sweet smell there shall be stink;
and instead of a girdle a rent;
and instead of well set hair baldness;
and instead of a stomacher a girding of sackcloth;
and burning instead of beauty.
It is very apparent from these verses that we are to dress in a modest manner, not drawing undo attention to our bodies. When we wear clothes that expose area’s of the body that God has clearly spoken are to be covered or it is a shame to us then we are dishonoring Him and ourselves.
Women and girls have to make a choice. Are you living for self or for God? We can go into any store and quite easily find numerous outfits that are immodest and inappropriate. Necklines dip far to low and hemlines are far too high. There is nothing modest about 99% of the clothing marketed to the female gender today. We have to ask ourselves: Who am I dressing for?
If the answer is that your dressing for yourself, to get the attention of others, or because you just ‘love’ fashion then those are the wrong answers if you are a follower of Christ. When we choose what we put on as our bodily covering every day we need to remember we are a representative of Christ. If you are saved by grace you are representing our Lord and Saviour every moment of everyday. Whether your at home, in town, at a social event or church you are representing Jesus, your Redeemer.
We are literally walking billboards. What do people read when they see yours? Do they see Christ? Or do they see a girl who is half dressed, exposing area’s of her body that are not intended for others to see? If we are exposing area’s that we shouldn’t do we realize that we are being an intentional stumbling block to others?
Boys and men are visual creatures. When women and girls dress in a manner with a specific desire to draw the attention of the opposite sex then they are responsible if that action causes a brother in Christ to stumble. In our society there so many messages selling immorality at every turn. We cannot go to Walmart or any dept. store selling clothes without there being large pictures or mannequins of immodestly dressed women . We taught our son at an early age to look down when we came upon such things, whether in stores, movies, tv, or an actual person in public, so that those images would not be burned into his heart and mind. To this day when something like that pops up unexpectedly he automatically looks away and holds his gaze in a different direction until the immodesty is removed. We’ve taught him to respect women and hold them in godly honor. He also wants to remain honorable before God, as I know our other young men here do also. I know we are not the only parents to have done so.
As Christians our first priority should be to honor God. When we come into His house dressed in clothing that does not properly cover the body according to scripture we are not honoring God. When we come into His sanctuary intentionally dressed in a manner we know is dishonoring to Him we are disrespecting Him and His house. God was very plain regarding how He felt about how His priests were dressed when entering into the holy place, why would we think His standards would be different now? Especially since we know that He is the same yesterday, today, and forever? He changeth not.
Leviticus 16:4
4 He shall put on the holy linen coat, and he shall have the linen breeches upon his flesh, and shall be girded with a linen girdle, and with the linen mitre shall he be attired: these are holy garments; therefore shall he wash his flesh in water, and so put them on.
If God was so particular as to how the priests were to dress to come into the holy place why would He not be particular about how we come before Him in His house of worship now? And if we believe we are serving the Lord 24/7 whether we are in His house or not then why would we think we can come before Him any place at any time in anything less than the modest covering of our bodies at those times also?
As children of God we are bought with a price, children of the King. We are royalty for all intents and purposes. We are representing our Lord and Saviour to everyone who see’s us everywhere we go. But is Christ who they see when they see us or are they instead seeing just another worldly person in shorty shorts and tight top, or a skirt to short to be even remotely considered modest? Or a top to low cut to appropriately cover what should not be shown publicly? We need to ask ourselves if what we are wearing is going to be a distraction to the men and boys around us. If it is then its not appropriate. If we cause men and young men to have inappropriate thoughts then we are at fault and it is sin. We will be accountable for that sin.
I knew a woman once who shared with me how she used to wear very tight, low cut dresses with short hemlines. Her thinking was that it was pleasing to her husband to see her in such clothing from time to time therefore there was nothing wrong with it. So she went on to church dressed this way week after week until one day a man at church confessed to her the thoughts he was having about her because of it, sinful thoughts. He made an inappropriate suggestion to her. She was very shocked, but it opened her eye’s to the fact that what she wore was being seen by others besides just her husband and in dressing that way she had contributed to the stumbling of a brother in Christ. She had to repent. She went to her husband and talked to him about it to find out he didn’t necessarily like how she’d been dressing but thought she just preferred those clothes so he didn’t say anything. From that day forward her outlook changed and so did her wardrobe.
Ladies, I want you to think about something. When you show young men, or grown men, that you are willing to compromise in your manner of dress what you have really shown them is that your willing to compromise, in anything. You have not shown him you are worthy of his respect. If someone cannot come up and stand in front of you to talk to you while you are sitting down without being able to see down your shirt then you are not dressed modestly. Dress and appearance are an important index of Christian character. What are your clothes saying about yours?
Bro. Lonny Burkes gave a wonderful sermon a couple of year ago during revival at Freedom about this very thing. He said that sometimes when he preaches he cannot look at certain young ladies because their dress is so short or so low cut or both that there are things exposed he cannot look upon. He said he’s had to preach whole sermons at times when it looked like he was preaching to one side of the room because he could not look at the other side for the immodestly he’d see there. I say it is a sad day when young ladies professing to be Christians are dressed too immodestly for the preacher to even look upon while giving his sermon! He went on to say that if young ladies could not afford to dress modestly he would help buy some fabric so you could make a dress with proper coverage. He was that serious about it.
Young ladies, God already has someone chosen for you. Somewhere out there your husband is waiting for the day he gets to meet you. Do you really want to be flaunting what is to one day be his in front of other young men that should never see it? When you marry you should be 100% his but if you are giving little bits of yourself away now you cannot do that. You can never recapture what you’ve given away. He will only get whats left. How fair is that? Is that honoring to your future husband in any way? And think about this, knowing that somewhere out there is your future husband, how would you feel knowing there is some girl or girls who are flirting with him or trying to tempt him with their immodest behaviors? If you want Gods perfect plan for your life you must honor Gods word and wait for His perfect timing for such things so that you can present yourself worthy when that time comes. God will honor that!!

1 Corinthians 11:1-16

11 Be ye followers of me, even as I also am of Christ. 2 Now I praise you, brethren, that ye remember me in all things, and keep the ordinances, as I delivered them to you. 3 But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God. 4 Every man praying or prophesying, having his head covered, dishonoureth his head. 5 But every woman that prayeth or prophesieth with her head uncovered dishonoureth her head: for that is even all one as if she were shaven. 6 For if the woman be not covered, let her also be shorn: but if it be a shame for a woman to be shorn or shaven, let her be covered. 7 For a man indeed ought not to cover his head, forasmuch as he is the image and glory of God: but the woman is the glory of the man. 8 For the man is not of the woman; but the woman of the man. 9 Neither was the man created for the woman; but the woman for the man. 10 For this cause ought the woman to have power on her head because of the angels. 11 Nevertheless neither is the man without the woman, neither the woman without the man, in the Lord. 12 For as the woman is of the man, even so is the man also by the woman; but all things of God.
13 Judge in yourselves: is it comely that a woman pray unto God uncovered? 14 Doth not even nature itself teach you, that, if a man have long hair, it is a shame unto him? 15 But if a woman have long hair, it is a glory to her: for her hair is given her for a covering. 16 But if any man seem to be contentious, we have no such custom, neither the churches of God.

Mothers, we are setting the example for our daughters by what we wear AND by what we approve. If we are trying to keep up with the rest of the world by dressing like the world then so will they. If we are dressing to get the attention of men, then eventually they will too. We dishonor our husbands when we dress in a manner that seeks the attention of others. We dishonor our husbands when we dress in a manner that dishonors Christ. Our husbands are accountable to Christ for everything that goes on in our homes and families. They have every right to say to us, “ That dress is not modest and I prefer you don’t wear it.” For us not to listen to his concerns and obey is sin. As fathers they have every right and a responsibility to tell our daughters no when they are over stepping the bounds of modesty and purity. As wives and mothers we have a responsibility to stand beside him and his decisions. We should not sneak around and try to slip in things here and there to please our rebellious children who don’t agree with the boundary’s our husband has set for his family. To do so only encourages a rebellious heart in our daughters (or sons) and does not teach them to honor their dad or their husbands as the head of the home as God prescribed for the order of the family, and worse, it does not encourage them to have an obedient heart toward Christ.
Joshua 24:15
And if it seem evil unto you to serve the Lord, choose you this day whom ye will serve; whether the gods which your fathers served that were on the other side of the flood, or the gods of the Amorites, in whose land ye dwell: but as for me and my house we will serve the Lord.
We are not our childrens best friends. I love my children dearly. Now that some of them are adults our relationship has changed somewhat. They are free to make certain choices on their own now that once before they weren’t, but I am still their fathers wife and as such there are certain things that will not change in the parent/child relationship. We can buddy around somewhat now that they are grown but if dad says to do something or not to do something I am not going to go against his wishes to instead do something to please my adult child. While they live in our home there will always be certain rules we expect to be respected. We’ll use alcohol as an example. If my adult child living at home decides to sample alcohol they will not do it in my home and I will not go get it to help them in that rebellion. If one of them wants to throw a party and dad says no I am not going to disrespect my husband by going behind his back to help my child plan one. After they move out on their own they have to live their lives as they see fit. Hopefully we have done enough to ground them in the word of God, but if for some reason they choose to do something that is against Gods word I still will not condone it. I won’t try to rule their lives but as a concerned parent I will voice my concern and remind them gently of Gods word. The rest will be up to them. I will love and support my children always, but I will not enable them in sin.
Deuteronomy 6: 5-7
5 and thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thine heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy might. 6 And these words, which I command thee this day, shall be in thine heart: 7 and thou shalt teach them diligently unto thy children, and shalt talk of them when thou sittest in thine house, and when thou walkest by the way, and when thou liest down, and when thou risest up.
I’m yet to read in scripture where it says parents are to stop being an example to their children, even after they are grown.
We do a disservice to our children when we do not uphold the family headship order as God ordained it to be. Christ over the husband, the husband over the wife, the wife over the children. It is when a father is truly the head of the home and family in a Godly fashion that the family works as God intended.
Genesis 18:19 For I know him, that he will command his children and his household after him, and they shall keep the way of the Lord, to do justice and judgement; (first part of that verse regarding Abraham as head of his house)
Young people, please think about the choices your making before you act on them. So many young people today are plastering images of themselves across the internet, an internet that is viewed from anyone anywhere in the world. The images these young people are posting will be out there for ever. Please think about what your posting, and will you be ashamed some day if your husband accidentally happens upon one of these images someday when your married. Or worse, one of your own children.
I am not perfect. I stumble myself from time to time. We all do, but we are to start each day new striving to live according to Gods word and not our wants. If we continue to do the same things everyday, never improving, then we are not truly serving God. A person truly serving God will grow, changes will occur, and others will notice those changes over time. I praise God that He opened my heart and eye’s so that I could see mini skirts and low cut tops were not at all appropriate or honoring to Christ. At the time I did that I was not living for the Lord, but once I started to live for Him my wants became what His wants were for me. I wanted to be pleasing to my Lord, I wanted to be found worthy and honorable.
Ladies, fashions are going to come and go. They have since the beginning of time. However, you need to know that it is only a recently development that Chrisitans have begun buying into the need to look like the rest of the world. Christians have always dressed differently. They have always been modestly covered, up until the last 50-60 years I’m going to guess. Even in the early 1900’s up until about the 1950’s or so women dressed relatively modestly. Anyone who didn’t was considered a floozy or an harlot. The way most women and girls look walking around town today would have been classified as a harlot a very short time ago, and frankly it still is. The only thing thats changed is the worlds definition of what a harlot is. Even in the early 1900’s women and girls still wore long skirts and blouses with higher necklines and sleeves that covered the arms at least to the elbow. Even in Summer. It was considered too immodest not too. Bathing suites even covered to just below the knee. If temperatures were hot they wore cooler fabrics. And they did not have the benefit of air conditioning. We do not have to go around half dressed to be cooler. And these ladies did not just sit around all day reading magazines or lounging around a pool. They worked outside in the heat growing the food for their families, then standing over a hot stove canning up what they raised AND then they fixed supper for their family after that.
Another point we must consider are those swimsuits. Most swimsuits in the stores today look like something one would buy in the underwear department. If what you wear to go swimming covers less than or the same amount of real estate as your underwear does then you are not covered near enough. Summer is not an excuse to start stripping down publicly. If you respect yourself at all and want to honor your Father in Heaven then you won’t want to do it either.
As to how we are to dress, it is not impossible to find modest, nice looking, God-honoring clothing. Paul said it, we must die to the flesh daily and if not now then when? If we will not do it as young Christians we will not do it as older ones either. Compromise is rampant in our churches, which is why this country is in the state it is in. Christians have stopped looking to Gods word for the direction in their lives and instead looks toward the world. We cannot live with one foot in the world and one foot in the church.
Revelation 3:16
So then because thou art lukewarm, and neither cold nor hot, I will spue thee out of my mouth.
We are not to follow the things of this world, that includes the fashions of this world as well. If the world is publicly undressing it does not mean its okay for us to follow them. The world serves strange gods, we serve the Living God! Be the living billboard that lets the world see Him through you.

Zephaniah 1:8

8 And it shall come to pass in the day of the Lord’s sacrifice,
that I will punish the princes, and the king’s children,
and all such as are clothed with strange apparel.

Romans 12

12 I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that ye present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable unto God, which is your reasonable service. 2 And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.

I will end with a quote I have seen on the internet. You may have seen it also.  I do not know to whom to attribute these words, but they hold a lot of truth.

“When a woman veils her body in modesty she is not hiding herself from men; she is revealing her dignity to them. ” 

Blessings To You In Christ Jesus

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Not sure why this post didn’t come out as it should, but this is an important article that needs to be read by ever Christian across the country.

 The White House is waging an all-out assault on religious liberty. Public schools are indoctrinating our children with the gospel of secularism. Hollywood is spewing toxins into our homes. The soundtrack of our lives is a pulsating mix of sex and violence and filth. The American family is in ruins. What was once wrong is now right and what was once right is now wrong.

Our nation stands on a precipice. Freedom hangs in the balance. We live in a postmodern and post-God nation. The perfect storm is brewing. Do not be deceived. There may be a war on religious liberty, but the true target is Christianity.

Tony Perkins, president of the Family Research Council, and Kelly Shackelford, president of Liberty Institute, penned an open letter to the American people last year. Hostility against religious liberty has reached an all-time high, they warned. The freedom of religion is being pushed out of public life, schools and even churches.

The freedom of religion is being pushed out of public life, schools and even churches.

“Our Founding Fathers considered religious liberty our ‘first freedom,’ and the bedrock upon which all other freedoms rest,” the men wrote. “They understood that one’s right to worship God and follow his conscience according to the principles of his religious faith was foundational to civic tranquility. A man whose religious faith was repressed could never be a loyal citizen since the state was usurping his first allegiance and costing him his primary freedom. This is one of the most important distinctions that makes America an exceptional nation — if not the most important.”

Both groups document more than 600 recent examples of religious hostility. Six hundred. American stories. Our stories. Their documentation included many stories I have covered during my career at Fox News Channel.

The Obama administration wants to force religious organizations and Christian business owners to provide insurance for birth control and abortion-inducing drugs in direct violation of their religious beliefs. The military conducted training sessions that labeled Evangelical Christians and Catholics as examples of religious extremists. The Internal Revenue Service launched investigations into pro-life organizations, demanding to know the contents of their prayers.

This is happening right here, right now, in the United States of America. We are under attack from within — from an enemy who wants to remove any mention of God from the public marketplace.

In recent days, a Florida child was bullied by his public schoolteacher for reading his Bible during “free reading time.” The teacher was recorded on a voice mail message telling the child’s parents that “he’s not permitted to read those books in my classroom.”

Seventh-day Adventist preacher Eric Walsh was suspended with pay from his job as the public health director of Pasadena, Calif., after critics exposed videos of sermons in which he preached that homosexuality is a sin. Pasadena officials told local reporters the pastor was placed on paid leave while they investigate his sermons and determine whether he has the ability to lead a department that he’s headed since 2010.

A while back Rev. Billy Graham penned a letter expressing his dismay over the moral decline of the nation, declaring that his “heart aches for America and its deceived people.”

“The farther we get from God, the more the world spirals out of control,” Graham wrote, noting that the nation seems to be going out of its way to remove God from the public arena. “Just a few weeks ago in a prominent city in the South, Christian chaplains who serve the police department were ordered to no longer mention the Name of Jesus in prayer,” he wrote, noting that officers were only allowed to pray to “the being in the room.”

“Our society strives to avoid any possibility of offending anyone —  except God,” he continued.

We ask God to bless America, but we elected a president whose pastor asked God to damn America. We ask God to bless America, but we slaughter millions of unborn babies. We ask God to bless America, but we silence His children.

God bless America? We should be on our knees asking for His mercy instead. The time has come for people of faith to rise up and claim their Ebenezer. We need patriots who will take back this land. We need patriots who will say we are still one nation under God.

The storm clouds are gathering. The winds of revolution are blowing, friends. Religious liberty is under attack.

Years ago the Christian songwriter Steve Green penned a song titled, “Find Us Faithful.” It was a prayer that all who came after us would find this generation of believers faithful. The call still rings true today.

In these early days of the 21st century, the fire is flickering and the footprints are few. Storm clouds are gathering. The winds of persecution are blowing. But friends, no matter how difficult these days have become, let not your heart be troubled.

The time has come, brothers and sisters, my fellow countrymen. Who among you is willing to take a stand for religious liberty? Who among you is will to risk everything for the cause of Christ? Who among you is willing to rise up and declare that we are still one nation under God?

“If my people who are called by My name will humble themselves, and pray and seek My face, and turn from their wicked ways, then I will hear from heaven, and will forgive their sin and heal their land,” the Scriptures declare.

The most pressing problem facing America can’t be solved in Washington, D.C. True hope and change can’t be found at 1600 Pennsylvania Avenue. It can only be found at the foot of the cross
on Calvary.

Our government may spy on our phone lines. It may throw us in jail. It may take away our photography shops and bakeries. It may demand to know the content of our prayers. But we will not be bullied. We will not be intimidated. We will not be silenced.

It’s time for a new generation of believers to rise up and restore the dream of our Founding Fathers – the dream of a nation where all men are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable rights. The dream of a people who declare we are still one nation under God.

Onward, Christian soldiers. Onward.

Author’s note: I write about stories just like this in my new book, “God Less America – Real Stories From the Front Lines of the Attack on Traditional Values.” It’s available wherever fine books are sold including Amazon and Barnes & Noble.


Todd Starnes is host of Fox News & Commentary, heard on hundreds of radio stations. Sign up for his American Dispatch newsletter, be sure to join his Facebook page, and follow him on Twitter. His latest book is “God Less America”.

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